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Hello, welcome to the lesson of giving your opinion, my name is Rodney, do me a favor, go to YouTube, go to my page, English lessons for you and subscribe to my channel, watch out for imitators, I’m the real deal, be careful.

I need to teach you guys how to give opinions now, you might think Rodney I already know how to give my opinion, if someone says “Hey, do you like pizza?” I say “it’s so so.” your opinion is so so, guess what, that’s a bad answer, so I wanna teach you some techniques to continue conversation when you have to give your opinion, this happens all the time, maybe you went to a new restaurant, or you saw a movie, or you went to a new pub, a bar or a restaurant, and you wanna tell people “oh my god, it’s great, I went to the new restaurant that opened up.” And your friend says “How was it?” you say “Ok.” What kind of answer is “ok”? Was it good, was it bad, did you get diarrhea, did you like it, what did you eat? So when someone asks you your opinion, instead of giving short one-word answers—— “yes”, “I liked it”, “It’s great”, you need to expand and you need to give more information.

Here is a list of things that you should not say when someone asks your opinion, “So how was the movie?” “So so.” What the hell does “so so” mean? “So” means “yes” and “no” at the same time? If someone says to me it’s so so, I think it’s bad, don’t say that. Maybe your friend and you saw the same movie, and someone ask your friend “Hey how was the movie?” Your friend said “well, it was a little boring, and there wasn’t a lot of action, I didn’t really like it that much.” The conversation naturally would go to you and you go “same”. Same what? Please don’t do this, it’s so frustrating when you are trying to have a conversation with someone, don’t say “same”, you are an individual, please give the person your opinion, you can say something like “well, I agree, it was boring, but ...”, add your own spice of life, add your own opinion, so instead of saying “same”, you can say “I agree”, and then add your information.

The next one, now if you are a little shy, and someone offers you something, for example, would you like to have free English lessons? Sure is a good answer, but if you are giving your opinion, for example, “Did you like the restaurant that you went to last night?” “Sure.” Sure is a really really bad answer, what again you wanna do is expand you answer. This is the worst thing you can say if you someone asks you your opinion, or if they ask you a question about something.

As an example, someone might say “Rodney, are you from canada?” “Of course.” “Well, excuse me for asking.” You only are going to use “of course” if someone has asked you a very very stupid question or a question that they already know the answer, too. As an example, you can say “Rodney, you are from canada, do you have red hair?” And I say “of course I do, you can see it.” So when you answer “of course”, it does not mean the same as “yes”. “Of course” is a very very rude way to answer someone’s question if they ask you something. So please be very careful of this. “Are you enjoy your English lessons?” “Of course”, good answer.

Maybe. Do you like Rodney teacher, maybe, maybe, what does maybe mean? So maybe, sure, same, so so, garbage, don’t use them. Maybe, you are not going to tell me the answer? Is it a secret? Don’t say maybe, another one that a lot of you guys say, it’s unnecessary unless you want to exaggerate something. So let’s say again that you went to a new pizza shop, and you order some really spicy pasta at a pizza store, that’s ok. So you get the pizza or pasta that’s really spicy, you eat it, and your friend goes hey how is your spicy pasta, you are gonna say it’s spicy, you do not need to say it’s spicy for me, because you are the one talking, so you can just say it’s spicy. Now the way that we would use this correctly is to exaggerate something, example, if you are having pasta that’s really really spicy and your friend is having the same pasta dish, maybe your friend is eating it and goes “what, this is not spicy for me”, you are exaggerating that one is spicy, and one isn’t.

So you are eating it, you are dying, you are crying, your face is turning red, you say “god, this is spicy”, your friend’s like “this is not spicy for me”, so you are exaggerating your point, be careful about this one. So, these ones, don’t use them. This one, only if you are exaggerating your point. These aren’t the good ones, these are the good guys, these ones don’t exist anymore, sometimes people will ask you a conversation, or ask you a question in a conversation that you have never even thought about before in your life,instead of you saying I don’t know, you are going to just do things like this, I don’t know, but let me think.

As an example, do you think in Canada that we should have drinking allowed on the streets, because in Canada, in Ontario it’s illegal, you can not drink alcohol on the streets.maybe in your country you can drink everywhere, you are lucky and you have never thought about this concept of not being able to drink somewhere, it’s a new idea, the police are coming to get me, they know that I have been drinking in the streets, here they come. They didn’t catch me, I still got my Canada Dry, so if you have ever been thinking about drinking in Canada, you are more than welcome to drink Canada Dry. It’s pop, soda pop, this is not a beer, unfortunately, if you’d like to buy me a beer, I wouldn’t mind. So if you have to give your opinions on something and you have never thought about it before, you can say I don’t know, but let me think, I think drinking in Canada should be allowed on the street.

This gives you enough time to think about your opinion instead of saying I don’t know and ending your conversation, you are going to actually give yourself time to think about it. You can even say this I’ve never thought about that before, but...then again you are gonna have time to think about your opinion. This is a doozy. If someone asks you something that you don’t want to tell them the truth about, for example, maybe you go to your friend’s house for dinner, and your friend makes you a dinner that you didn’t really like, you don’t want to tell the person that the dinner was so so , or sure, I liked it, or maybe I liked it, or of course I liked your dinner, you can use this, it was interesting. How was the moving last night? Well, it was interesting.

This phrase is very very useful, interesting usually has a positive meaning, it usually means something that you think, that made you think , we can say this, wow, that was an interesting topic you are talked about, but when it’s you are asked about your opinion of something, if something is interesting, it kinda of means that you didn’t like it, please be careful when you use this, because you better know that Engvid.com is interesting, and not “interesting”. Be careful it has two meanings, but depending on how you deliver it, it can be good.

Good example, how was the dinner, it was interesting, people think that it was positive, if your facial expression and your intonation is “it was interesting”, they are gonna know something is wrong. So words and facial expressions, be careful, sometimes they are positive, sometimes they are negative, the next time someone asks you your opinion in a conversation, please do not give one-word answers or these crazy, stupid, really really bad answers, please try and give your opinion if you need time to think about it, you can use these , these expressions, tell me what you think of this video and be honest, bye.